

This is the happiest I have been in my entire life, and I want to act on these desires. (Meeting strangers sounds scary, I know, but I have kept my identity secret and have insisted on knowing these gents’ real and verifiable info.) I have spoken to each of them on the phone and exchanged hundreds of emails.

Two of these “sub males” want me to “own” them. This is a huge contrast to my new “online friends”, who would love to meet and orally service me. I hinted about these interests to my husband and got shot down (of course). I started visiting online domination forums. A little information can be a dangerous thing. She said it made sense that my husband didn’t enjoy doing it because it was a “domination thing” that mostly submissive men enjoy. If I initiate or get on top, he loses his erection because I am “attacking him”.Ī few months ago, I told a friend that I had never once received “enthusiastic oral”. It can feel pretty “rapey” a lot of the time, as he typically comes at me rounding third base and then-bam-it’s over in five minutes. For years, it has been penis in the vagina, missionary position or doggy-style. If I ask for oral, he tells me to “clean it really, really well,” then he’ll “think about doing that”. Hubby, by the way, does not fall into my lap. That attitude about my wifely duties also translates into myriad other household tasks that fall into my lap. His answer: a married man “should not have to pleasure himself”. I suggested that he masturbate in the shower if he wanted a morning quickie. When our kids were little, I did not want sex as often as he did (“only” twice a week). He has always been disinterested in my pleasure. But my husband is a type-A professional, and that has played out in the bedroom. I credit my husband for giving me a good life and helping me pursue goals. My husband of 18 years is 22 years my senior.
